After the joyous birth of their daughter, Arielle, on February 10, Katy Hayes experienced intense pain, went to the local hospital and developed a serious infection. She found herself battling for her life after a series of complications resulting from a Streptococcal A infection. She underwent much trauma then surgery to remove organs and necrotic tissue in Kingwood. When she was stable enough to be moved, she was flown to the Parkland Memorial Hospital ICU in Dallas for further treatment where her arms and legs were amputated to save her life.
Family and friends can check on Katy’s condition here as well as offer support and love. Her husband, Al, tries to post her status as often as he can (almost daily).
Please keep Katy and her family in your thoughts and prayers.
Positive thoughts and prayers! Thanks to the webmaster for a great way for updates.
that picture shows Katy’s beautiful smile and everyone else’s too.It is very good that her blood pressure and heart are good. Love to everyone.
You all are in my prayers!
We had our morning meeting with the doctor and nurse on duty. She is still showing consistency with regards to her vitals, though we still need to see her heartrate come down. The DIC seems to be one of the major inhibitors in making any major progress. For those of you who don’t know, DIC is a condition in which the blood thins and clots simultaneously. This makes is almost impossible to treat either problem without risking increasing the other. A real life catch22.
We talked about the ventilator, what the parameters were for weening her off, trachiostomy (spelling?), etc. She is having an eeg (brain scan) today, but the results will take a few days to be reviewed. There is (pray for it not to be so) a chance that she had a stroke while in coma. They have no way of knowing until they can CAT scan her. There is a possibility of that happening in the next few days.
Katy is now on “drop isolation.” Simply put, no one but immediate family, and then with gowns, masks, gloves, etc. The family is even limiting contact (except me), so that we can limit the possibilty of outgoing contamination.
If you would like to come visit me, and send prayers to Katy via the waiting room, please come at 9am, 5pm, and 9pm. I am here most of the time, but I am having to run and do errands that only I can do (birth certificates/ssn).
I am off to deal with the courthouse, but will be back soon. Thanks, again, for all of your love and support.
Love,
Al
I am not very computer saavy, so I do not know if I am commenting correctly. Gosh, I do not know where to begin. I overheard you family’s story during a news report probably not long after Katy became ill and the difficult decisions had to be made. I think that the report might have mentioned the blog, but I was so overwhelmed by your situation that I could not bring myself to look you up at that time; although I knew that I would eventually have to do so. We live in West University, and yesterday’s local publication carried your story. I knew that it was time, so I went to your blog and read. I got to the mid-April post last night, and I just finished the rest of the story to date. I wish that I was a better writer and had words that could express the level of grief, amazement, wonder and awe that your family’s circumstances have inspired. You guys are beyond amazing. The level of devotion you have shown your wife is remarkable. Your love for one another is incredible. I cannot believe the determination and will that Katy seems to have. I have prayed for you, and I will continue to do so. I also hope to be able to help in some tangible way. Yesterday’s publication included some emails for those who might like to help and I responded to one. The response I recieved promised updates as to how we can help. I will continue to follow Katy’s progress through your blogs, and I pray that all of the things that you and your family need to begin life anew will be provided to you. I hope that the public will be notified when there is a need that would not otherwise be met without outside assistance. May God continue to lift you and yours up as you travel this road, and may the blessings of recovery, friendship, love and triumph abound.
Al,
I am sending Katy soemuch positive energy–as much as I can. I really have this strong feeling that she is going to make it, that she will be okay. It may take a awhile and be a long battle, but she is going to pull through.
Lots of Love to you. I am so heartened to hear that you have such a strong network of wonderful people that surround you.
Cath
we are praying for u and and everyone from stageband want katy to get better and we all agreed that we are going to kick butt at the w.t. jazz fest for u and katy much love wayne.
Hey Sweetness!
Still going strong here with all the love and light I can muster. Keep us posted and hang in there. Your love is so important right now. Katy is lucky to have you hon, big hugs to all of you.
K
Hi Al! I hear it’s good news today! All the best as you head to Dallas 🙂 I loved taking pictures of the beautiful Arielle! I used to be in a playgroup with Katy when our boys were little… we’ve lost touch… but want you to know we’re sending love and healing light to BOTH of you and your kids too!
Al,
I just read your latest post tonight and while I don’t have any advice personally, I am forwarding to a few doctor friends to ask if they have any thoughts. Will send to you ASAP when I hear back. Meanwhile, I am still praying for your peace and Katy’s complete recovery. May you feel the presence of Jesus as you try to sift through decisions.
Heather
Your family is in our prayers.
My thoughts are with you, Katy and the family.
Jeff Bales
Irvine, California.
All of you are in our prayers. We are praying that Katy continues improving and recovers swiftly. Even in the hardest moments think of something funny that Katy would say and let her know the smiles everyone has for her being so strong and her fighting spirit. Hang in there (:
Diane Danner
Nashville, Tn
Thank you for having the courage to share Katy’s story. My son and family (Bryan Applegate) live in Kingwood. He and his wife Michele passed me the info and Katy has been put on our church’s prayer list here in the RIO Grand Valley and will remain there as long as she needs our prayers. My name is Gail Applegate. My husband, Randy and I live in Donna, TX all winter. We are from Indiana and due to my health need to stay in a warm climate during the winters. We are 8 miles north of Mexico, 50 miles west of Padre Island. We will be heading to Houston in 3 weeks then on to Indiana. I will be watching for Katy’s progress. She is in the Lords hands and he will take care of her. When we get back to Columbus, IN Katy will be put on our home church’s prayer list also. You must take care of yourself for Katy and your children. You are ALL in our prayers.
In the Lords’ name, Gail
You don’t know us, but we know people who know you! They asked us last week to pray for Katy, and I have been praying for her. I pray that death will have no sway over her, and that God will breathe life, vitality, and strength into her. I pray that He will work supernaturally to bring wholeness and healing to her body that will amaze even the medical staff who are treating her. I pray for encouragement to replace despair and hopelessness. I pray for provision for every need for you, for Katy, and for your children: physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional. I pray that God’s blessings and joy will overtake you, in spite of the circumstances, and I pray for freedom from all guilt attendant to the difficult decisions you have had to make. May the Holy Spirit refresh and comfort all of you!
Christine Ege, Kingwood
Al, I cant believe this. I was truly shocked when I read what had happened. Literally, my face got bright red and turned super hot.
I will be giving the web site address, paypal and bank account information during every IndyWarz Radio show until you tell me to stop.
Let me know if you need anything i can help with. I know I’m in Austin, but who knows what you may need at some point.
Dear Al,
You do not me but your family has been in my thoughts and prayers. I felt connected to you all from the first look at your blog. I am a self-employed musician (pianist) in Brenham. I have had 6 children and 5 home births. There are things in my life that I have had to go through challenges that do not compare to what you are going through but I have had my faith tested beyond my imagination. I did not know about the full extent of what decisions you were having to make until Sunday evening. On the same day that you were trying to make the decision regarding the amputations, I had read a devotional by Oswald Chambers and had written my comments and emailed them to my children and husband. My husband replied back to me yesterday, so I had a chance to re-read what I had written. I know you do not have time to reply back but in the future if you would like me to forward that email to you I would be more than happy to. In short, in that email on Friday, Feb 26th I wrote or the Holy Spirit wrote the following (excerpt):
“But when I give it time, sometimes much time, I can usually see that he made the right decision because of the fruit that it produced. We are going through a new season and the dead branches are getting cut off. It will be painful at times but HOPEfully, a lot of good tasty, sweet fruit will come out of it.”
Yesterday, when I read this again, I was blown away. And knowing now what you and Katy just had to go through, I felt in my heart that you did what you were supposed to do. I hope this brings encouragement to you.
Al, God has given me a gift of emotional and I hope spiritual healing through my music. I have two CD’s and you can listen to them on my website, http://www.cherylamelang.com. I also have been posting meditation songs on my Facebook page daily. A few hospital patients have listened to my CD’s in their hospital room and say it brought them peace. If you would like for me to mail them to you, I would love to. If ever, I could minister in person to Katy or yourself, please let me know.
Please know that the Lord has called so many to pray for you all and He will give you the wisdom and strength you need.
faithfully,
Cheryl
Al, I don’t know your family personally but your story has really touched my heart. I’m doing everything I can to get people I know to attend the fundraising events for your family. I contacted Michele through email and am going to try to get to her house to take some pictures of Arielle and have them printed up and framed. I’d love to send some to your apartment in Dallas. My email is NoodleJW@aol.com if you would like to email me your address. I was also wondering if there was anyway I could get in contact with your daughter Amber. I am a Young Life (christian organization for high school students) leader here in kingwood. We would love for Amber to come! We sing popular songs, play all kinds of crazy games and have a short message at the end. This summer we are taking some kids to an AMAZING camp in Georgia. If she wanted to come we will find a way to cover the cost. Much love and prayers to you and your family 🙂
Just a note to let you know people at Northwoods are holding you all in our hearts.
Al,
I’m your cousin. Aunt Tommie’s youngest. We have been keeping up through your Dad and friends in New Mexico.
You are all in our thoughts and prayers. You are all also on several prayer list and remain there.
I know you are in a difficult position having to make such difficult decisions. Please know that there are no wrong decisions made out of love.
I am praying for you to have all the knowledge, strength and support for all you have to do.
Know that our love, thoughts and prayers are with you.
a
Karl
I look forward to meeting your family one day.
My family prays for your family daily and often.
Please let me know what I can do to help; I am willing and able to help. morrismanorhouse@yahoo.com 281-358-8381.
Most sincerely,
Jenn Morris
Al,
I’m another of those people you don’t know. We’re friends of Thom and Betta’s in Colorado Springs. We met you and Katy at a game night they hosted a few years back, I’m pretty sure. My husband works in a hospital ICU and has seen a few cases sort of like Katy’s, and we had a baby last year, and between these details we have such an intense sympathy for what you’re dealing with. I’ve been sending you and Katy and the kids love and energy and peace every time I think of you, which is often. You have indeed been called on to make decisions no human being should ever have to make, let alone for his beloved; I’m so sorry. Just remember that the circle of people holding you in their hearts from a distance is larger than you know.
Julia Mesnikoff
Dear Al,
The Sears family continues to pray for you, Katy and all of your family. We will all be “complete and perfect” in heaven but for now – we just serve Him empowered by the Holy Spirit – not in our own strength.
Thank you for encouraging us to have those “difficult conversations” with our families. We never know where He will lead us and who we will touch.
Love, Debra Sears
Al, We are with you in thought and prayer. I cannot imagine what you are going through. I have gone through my fair share of hard times and I want you to know we will continue our efforts to support you guys during this tough time. God is with you. I have witnessed an amazing gathering of people from all regions of our great nation that are praying for you guys. Hang in there Al. We are with you my friend.
A friend of mine sent me this webpage not knowing that I know who you are. It is wonderful that so many people are praying for you, we certainly are here at Kingwood.
God bless,
One of Kingwood ICU’s nurses.
I just read your story and life happenings, it is Sunday night March 7th and I am going to pray intensely for you and your family. It breaks my heart to hear of this tragedy and I will continue to pray for Katy. God Bless, Robin Bailey
Hello Al,
Like many others who have written, we don’t know you, but through yours and Katy’s story we now feel like we do.
My family and I live in Kingwood. I received an email last week of Katy’s plight and my little boy and I have been praying for you and your family everyday. When we say a blessing over our meals, we also pray for your family. We, as many others I am sure, ache for all you and Katy have had to endure. We will continue to pray for all good things, for Katy’s recovery and healing and the strength to endure all things, and for your children to soon see their mother again.
There are many groups in this area that have learned about your family and what you are all dealing with. I too am amazed at the outpouring of compassion I am seeing in this community and others, everytime I open a newspaper, there is news of a benefit on your beautiful Katy’s behalf. What a truly miraculous thing to witness. My family and I will continue to pray that all your family’s needs are met. And God bless all of you, may he comfort and guide you through all these difficult times. I only wish I could do more for you and your family.
Just wanted you to know that there is yet another family praying for yours. I have been thinking about Katy and your family every day since I received an email about your situation from Sydney Lloyd on 2/26. I have never felt this strongly about someone I do not know, but I can’t help but think of ya’ll and wonder how ya’ll are doing each day. I look forward to your daily blog to see how Katy is doing. I would love to meet ya’ll some day, when you and Katy get back home and settle in. I am really upset about what ya’ll are going through. I hope things only get better from this point on! Hang in there! You have a ton of poeple praying and hoping for the best for you and your family!
Al and Katy,
We are praying for you. Please take a moment to look up Becky Guinn on you-tube. She lost both her hands and feet suddenly several years ago. I know Becky personally, and she is a very godly woman who has always tried to serve the Lord faithfully.
Sincerely,
Kathy McFatridge
I’m terribly sorry for what you all have been going through. I can’t imagine what it’s like. You guys are in my prayers and I know that you will pull through.
With love,
Leah S.
Dear Mr. Hayes,
Words cannot express how much your story has touched my heart and soul, at such a deep level. You have been an inspiration to my daughter Leah, and you are an inspiration to me today. Your courage and strength through this unimaginable ordeal is nothing but heroic…
Like a multitude of others, my family and I are praying intensely for your beautiful family. May God continue to provide all of you with the love and strength you need to face each day with renewed hope.
Sincerely,
Christine Starkweather
Hello Al,
I guess I am the most unknown person for you. I learnt about your story from a freind of mine.
I am Bulgarian. My freind, who is american told me yesterday about Katy’s story and sent me the link
of your website. And I just read your story. I think you are amazing husband.
I pray for Katy’s health and recovery. And thank God that she has You. I know that You have went through lots of
hard decisions all that time, but we all know that its because of her…her recovery.
You are very strong person and I am sure you will fill her with hope and even inspire her when the time comes.
And I am sure she will soon be smiling at you.
I also know that she will forgive you about that hard decision of yours you have taken when it was needed….
be sure of that. I believe that her only wish and desire is to be with you and your kids, no matter how, but be with all of you.
I pray for all of you. And I believe that God is there and is helping.
She must recover. Be there with her. She feels that.
Be strrong Al and Katy will be strong too
Viktoria
You and your family inspire me. Katy is lucky to have such a wonderful husband, and Al is lucky to have Katy! Here’s a video I thought you might enjoy. It is both inspirational and hilarious!
Dear Albert, I’m Giulia and I’m a neighbour of your aunt Nellina in Italy. My family and I would like to hug you and your chidren, to give you love and hope. We all wish that Katy will get better, a little bit every day, and soon able to kiss the lovely Arielle. We pray for your souls, hoping they will never give up.
Sincerely
Giulia
Hi Al,
Just continuing to send you and Katy and the kids much love and healing energy. You are doing a tremendously difficult thing with grace and good humor. And you’re right that Thom and Betta are two of the most wonderful people on the planet — so glad they’re on your team with all this.
Julia Mesnikoff
Al,
I learned of your family’s trauma and strength last Saturday while on a pilgrimage to a few churches in Toledo, Ohio. (yeah, Toledo, OH is a pretty unlikely place for pilgrimage). But it was a rich day.
On Feb 18/19, 2003 I was stricken with necrotizing fascitis, lost my left leg above the knee and was hospitalized for ten weeks. Strangely, my wife ended up being hospitalized at the same time and almost lost a leg because of cellulitis. Our children at the time were 21, 18, 14, and 10.
Even with my experience I can’t say I really know what Katy and the rest of the Hayes family is going through. But I did want you to simply know that my wife, Sally, and I am praying for you all.
Reading the updates rings lots of bells for me. From what I’ve read, it sounds like you have a strong network of support and have been given amazing grace in coping with the shock. I don’t want to presume but if you think that anything in our experience might be useful, be assured that you can call me at 734 395-4587 or email me at akresta@avemariaradio.net. I’ll continue to monitor the posts to keep our prayers fresh.
Respectfully,
Al & Sally Kresta
Ann Arbor, MI
I just heard of your family’s story. I can tell the depth of the love that is so strong between all of you. I have two non-curable diseases though right now am no where as unstable as your Katy is. Please know that she and your family are all now in my prayers, thoughts and energy workings. I wish I lived closer b/c I am a nanny and I would so love to snuggle with the little ones!! Please please add me to the update list. Also is there a FB page I could be a fan of to follow the story/journey?
There is something I would love to send to Katy. Where should I mail it to??
Please let me know when you have a minute.
I send you love and comfort.
Gillian
gilltrumbull@yahoo.com
I am praying for you
Your situation has touched me deeply! My heart goes out to you & family.
We reside in Mesquite, not far from Parkland – PLEASE, if there is ANYTHING at ALL we can do to help – ANYTIME – just send me an email!!
Our LOVE and PRAYERS,
Kim
I saw the news story in Dallas, and was touched by your story. I can’t imagine your struggle, but am in awe of your determination. I am praying for hope and healing for you and your family.
Love and prayers to you!!!
Al and Katy,
You don’t know us, but we live in the DFW area and saw your story on the news.
I have been affected emotionally by your story, as we have two kiddos ourselves. Easy pregnancies, easy deliveries. But, as we know from your story and from others, it’s not always that way.
I am crying out to God for you and your families. I have you guys in my mind and on my heart every single day. I am praying that you will draw nearer to Him as you walk through this together.
Please let me know if there is anything I can do. I know we don’t know each other, but I am a stay at home mom, and have the time and geographical proximity to help you with whatever you need.
Bless you both,
Stefanie Wyres
❤
My prayers and well wishes go to Katy, Al, their beautiful children, and everyone who knows and loves them. I pray for Katy’s speedy recovery and a blessed future.
Hello Katy and Family,
My name is Carrie Davis and I am the National Coordinator for the Amputee Empowerment Partners Program; a group of volunteer peer mentors willing to assist you through rehabilitation and recovery.
We are here for you as a resource and we’d like to invite you to join our secure online community at http://www.empoweringamputees.org We have over 600 members online that would be happy to answer questions, offer support, and share their experiences. We have a group there dedicated to Systemic Infections Survivors who have lost one or more limbs.
Know that you are not alone and that we are here to help. Our thoughts are with you.
Carrie
Our thoughts and prayers are with your entire family.
Hello Katy, Al and your family,
I just want you to know that you are very inspiring to me. So many times people feel that they have their day to day problems that they can’t seem to overcome and then along comes the struggles that you all have had to face. With GOD and your love for each other, all things are possible. You will always be in my thoughts and prayers. You both have a very beautiful family.
After all those pain Katy has been suffering, she will make it and make it strong “till the end of time” as your commitment. She can do it. I have strong believe like that. Just keep faith Al. She and family need you.
My prayers to your family
Erika Le
Wow, I am so amazed at your courage and positive attitude, you are an inspiration to many. The world is truly a better place with folks like you in it! I have a friend who is suffering from MERSA, and your story is such an inspiration to her in her day to day struggle. Thank you for sharing your story! I will keep your family in my prayers, and may God bless you and hold you all in his heart. ~Lea Rud
As I read your story, I was reminded of a testimony of a Christian man who was born without limbs. I hope this gives you hope for a blessed future for your family! Your courage and love is inspiring, Al. God bless you.
Sending Light & Love from Glen Rose, TX.
Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.
I am not an amputee.
Otherwise, Katy, our similarities are overwhelming. Terrifying. Random.
Who gets Strep A in places other than the throat? Who almost dies from it? Who gets better?
(I haven’t begun to ask the why’s yet. I can’t.)
My short version: I gave birth to my third child, Isaac, on March 5. Within 12 hours I had intense pain that was brushed off by nursing staff as gas pain, by my delivering OB-GYN as a torn ligament (in a place where no ligaments exist). Within 5 days I was in a medically induced coma, and eventually had 12-odd surgeries, a radical abdominal hysterectomy, and a fist-sized hole all the way through the abdominal wall over my right hip. Doctors refused to suggest that I might survive, at first. “Nectrotizing fasciitis” plus “sepsis” does not equal “recovery,” in their world – not often enough to rely on.
Then I started to get better. Three months in the ICU, they told my husband. Then another three months in a regular hospital room, followed by some time in rehab. I might be home by Christmas.
I got better faster. They stopped making estimates again, because they hated being wrong.
I’m home now; have been for a month. I was only hospitalized – isn’t it funny how words change when life gets so scrambled? How is it possible to use the word “only” in reference to a hospital stay? – for 36 days. I was somehow able to avoid amputation. I’m still in chronic pain and receiving VNA services as I recover, but I’m home.
And confused, because the getting-sick part made absolutely no sense. I shouldn’t have gotten sick in the first place, and then I should have gotten better medical attention and simpler treatment. I have retrograde amnesia for about a year leading up to when I awoke from the coma; I can remember things when prompted but in a vague, disconnected way, as though they all happened to someone else. It’s all just senseless, and pointless. As is my recovery: how did I get better so fast? I wasn’t in especially good physical shape beforehand; I have a form of arthritis in my spine that is autoimmune in nature, so if anything I should have recovered more slowly than expected.
Instead, here I am.
I don’t know. And no one does.
Anyway, the reason I’m writing this all now is to reach out, to touch base with someone else who has traveled a very similar path, though of course with a different and more unfair destination. Feel free to ignore me if correspondence would add more stress, or whatever. But I had to try, at least once, because there is such power in communication, and being the only one to go through something is a terribly lonely thing.
Take care,
Kate
kate2kids@gmail.com
http://katesaid.wordpress.com
I would like to share your story and help spread the word on facebook if you don’t mind….it could be very beneficial in helping to generate donations for future care.
Katy,
I heard about your story and like the Kate who posted earlier today, I also had strep A necrotizing fasciitis after delivering my second child vaginally in late January. Like you, I had a hysterectomy (hooray no more periods or PAPs!) and one of my ovaries was removed. I also was extremely lucky in that I only needed a skin graft on the top of my right foot where the infection had concentrated, because I had an ID doctor who demanded that my foot be surgically explored STAT when no one else wanted to do it. I also had a pleural effusion that sent me back to the hospital – we took a picture of the almost liter of fluid they drained out of it. I think I lost 2 lbs that day!
From your husband’s description, it seems like you are in the right state of mind – enjoying life and looking forward, not back. It is amazing how when your baby starts smiling and talking to you, how you forget about yourself completely.
For me, the hardest thing has been not being able to breastfeed; as I’m sure you are too, I am on high doses of blood thinners since I also had clots galore. But I still get stuck with the night wake-ups so it’s almost the same, right? 🙂
I will be thinking of you often (and Kate too). It is an emotional rollercoaster but things will return to a ‘new’ normal eventually. We will always have the physical scars to remind us of the ordeal, but life sometimes gives you lemons, and it takes a damn strong woman to make lemonade. Katy, please enjoy your family – I am so glad that they are able to enjoy you too.
Sincerely,
Allison
I have had 3 children and I have known that if I did not have medical insurance I could pay a lot for my kids and my “problems” for that procedure. I am single and had 2 children(from the same father that left us) by myself and paid for their births by myself. I admit I did not make the best choice for their fathers but I know damn well NOT to give birth to my child(ren) at my home because of the medial problems that can happen. When I hear of stories of women having babies at home and then running into medical problems and expecting “us” to pay for “HER” mistakes. It makes me very mad. I paid for all of my children in full by myself because it was the RIGHT thing to do….I did not ask for the public to help me…..and yes…..I did have a daughter with disabilities…I never asked anyone for help…I paid for it myself..
Jan,
Please read my latest blog. We did pay for our births, and we have NEVER taken a single penny in handouts or government programs. Unfortunately, even with full coverage insurance, we would have capped out on all benefits within 5 days of Katy entering the hospital. Her bills exceeded the 7 figure mark quickly, and we are forced to take what we can. The support we are being given by our community is in large part due to how involved we are in the community, and how many charitable acts we have done ourselves. I am very proud (I am being serious) of you for taking responsibilty for your children. A lot of people choose not to. That being said, many items of Katy’s care would not be available without some form of assistance. I will swallow my pride, and take what is offered, if it means saving her life. I hope that you never have to be put in a situation where you are unable to handle all of the expenses, but should it occur, at least there are those programs for you.
Al
Jan please don’t sound so heartless and cold the rest of “US” don’t mind helping out a mother and her baby if they need help.
Anyone who enters the U.S. illegally can get free healthcare from Medicaid YOU DO NOT have to be a U.S. Citizen to get Medicaid & food stamps, now that is something you should voice your opinion on and rant about if you are concerned about “US”. Your comment had nothing to do with this family informing their relatives , friends, and well wishers of Katy’s updates. I will borrow your words “it is the right thing to do” to offer this family support and Prayers. And if anyone asks me to Pray for their family then I will without hesitation.
I had a spinal cord injury, I was in a rehabilitation hospital between surgeries for around the clock care. I met many of people who went to the same hospital and were exposed to Mersa & and had a long battle fighting it. I was one of the lucky ones, it could happen to anyone for any reason. Tomorrow God forbid your life could change forever regardless of the cause would you want harsh words said to you or prayers and words of encouragement?
This beautiful family is going through a lot, sarcasm and critisism is the last thing they need.
to JAN . HOW DARE YOU!! Like AL said THANK GOD you never had to face a situation even close to what Him and his family are now going through. WHAT GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO PASS JUDGEMENT!! WHAT GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO ACT LIKE YOU KNOW ALL AND WHATS BEST FOR OTHER PEOPLE. and where in the Heck do you work that you have the ‘knowledge’ to make the statements that you made?!?! all I can say is WOW Thank God you and your children don’t live in any other time or in any other country. What a reality check that would be for someone with such SELF-RIGHTEOUS attitude as you.
Al, I am so sorry. you can delete my comment if you choose I know drama on your page is NOT what its here for but when my heart is breaking for you and your family and I feel so small that all I can do Is pray, I instantly saw red when reading Jans comment. she will most like never see mine. and I will most like not stop to read any more comments on your blog, just your postings.
GOD BLESS you and Katy for doing what was right for your family! and this isn’t how things are supposed to go, but it did and you have pulled strength you didn’t even know existed until it was needed and you are just plain doing what needs to be done. your Persaverance and Katy’s too is whats going to not only bring your family back together but make them stronger and an encouragment to others. Please have peace and be enouraged!
Al,
From one husband/father to another, you did the right thing. You are an example for us all. Katy will be there for the children, guiding them, loving them, and raising them with you at her side. I will keep you, Katy, and your family and friends in my thoughts. God bless.
Stay strong & God bless ! What a wonderful family you have.
Jan,
It would behoove you to know what you are talking about before you make such hateful statements. Katy made NO mistakes and did nothing to cause what happened to her to happen. Do you know who paid for the birth of their daughter? THEY did. Do you know where the money for her care is coming from? A lot of it is coming from their community. I hope you never find yourself in a situation where you are in need of compassion and assistance. Al and Katy are well respected and much loved by many members of their community. Can you say the same?
Dear Al and Katy~
I too, have read your story, and hesitated to write to you due to all the emails that you are now receiving. I couldn’t help but reply as what you have gone through touched me so profoundly, like so many others. (There but for the grace of God go I). You are in my prayers as well. I wish you love, and light, and promise. God will take care of you. Katy, you are amazing. Such an amazing woman. Don’t worry, God has so much more in store for you. If you can make it through this, you can make it through anything! 😉
You are a rock, my dear. And I admire you so much. Hang in there, and know that there are so very many people keeping you in their thoughts, dreams and hearts. Sincerely. Al..you are a saint. The husband dreams are made of. You have been through so very much. I am sure you would love to sit down and have a good cry. What tremendous decisions have been required of you. And you have done it all. YOU. You, also, are an amazing man. One that other men can emulate and admire. God bless you for your strength and fortitude and belief in your wife, Katy. You will be richly rewarded. And Katy, you will have a life full of the riches of the world. In all the ways that matter. It will be your dream. One day, all this will be behind you, and you will wonder how you got through it all. But you will. And you will be glorious. Really. You will see. The angels are with you Katy, watching you and helping you. They know your strength and courage. They know your heart. Just keep praying for strength to get through this difficult time, and they will keep answering your prayers and needs. They love you. We all do. Both of you. Please take care of yourselves, and Al, if you are at all able, I would love to hear from you. If not, do not worry, I understand.
Much love and gentleness,
Linda Kay Derouaux
I hope little Arielle grows up appreciating how much her daddy loves her mommy — it’s rare these days to see a husband with such a sense of devotion and selflessness. You are already setting a wonderful example for your children of what true love means. It pains me to imagine how sad Katy must be that she had to spend so much time away from her new baby – but she is ALIVE and we all should be grateful for that.
I hope your older children are faring well. This must be very hard on the whole family.
Best of luck!
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I am glad that your wife is doing better. God Bless You both and may God keep you surrounded in his loving arms. GOD BLESS!
Hello…..I stubled upon an article on Katy’s situation…and medical progress. I am an RN and am incredibly interested in reading from Day 1….from birth of your beautiful babe to where Katy is now in her recovery. I cannot find where to get to the beginning of the blog..I have tried anything..want to read it in chronological order! Please direct me how to access page 1 and read through…GOD BLess your lovely family…I am thinking of all of the family and the courage that you exhibit!! GOD Bless and please anyone email me at KJR1117@aol.com please put Katy’s story in the subject line…I really appreciate it. Sending positive and healing vibes her way! 🙂
God bless you and your family. In my prayers!
Postive thoughts and love is headed your way.
Hi Al,
Such a small world! I heard about your story from a mom at my kids’ school (St. Vincent de Paul) who told me she learned about you from your name being on a prayer list of the mom’s prayer group she is in. I was watching a show I had dvr’d, and at the end was a part of a news story that highlighted your story. I decided to “google” the story to learn more. I came across the article in the Chronicle, and as I got to the bottom of the story, I read “Tony Vega”. I thought, I know that name? Why would I know a wrestler’s name? Then it hit me, it was Al! My son’s first drum teacher at the Percussion Center. I couldn’t believe it, and l had tears in my eyes. You helped him prepare his first performance for the talent show, “Old Time Rock and Roll”.
I remember when you would talk about Katy and your children during the lesson. It was apparent then how proud you were of your wife and children. You are setting such a wonderful example for your family. The decisions you have had to make are unfathomable, but you have remained optimistic, strong, inspirational,…Go Al!
I don’t know if you remember Trace Miller. He was probably 7 or 8 when you taught him. He was a in a terrible snow skiing accident when he was only 6. He was life flighted off the mountain to Denver Children’s Hospital, suffered a severe traumatic brain injury, was in a coma for 10 days, and inpatient rehab there for 20 more days. We brought him back to Houston to continue out patient rehab at TIRR (awesome place!) for another 6 months. He is now in 6th grade and doing great! He is in band and still plays the drums at home everyday. He still does the talent show every year, until last year when he and another boy performed and accidentally blew out the whole sound and light system with their amps! For some reason the teachers didn’t want to have a Talent Show this year. Ha!
I can’t imagine the decisions you have had to make. I do understand the uncertainty you have faced. Not knowing, is terrifying. I understand how uplifting it is to know you have an army of people praying for you. I am so happy that Katy is home, and doing well! I know you have long road ahead of you, but I have no doubt you will both face it head on with 100% drive. Congratulations on your new baby girl! And GO KATY!
Much love,
Kim Miller
Kim,
I do remember you both. I am so happy to hear from you, and that Trace is still playing! Please tell him “hello” from me, and please keep in touch.
Al
Katy,
I know you don’t remember me, but I was a nursing student there this Spring semester and spent a day assisting the nurse in your care. I’m just beside myself praising God that he answered my prayer that day when I stood in your room and prayed over you. I give God ALL of the Glory!!!! I had people and instructors saying that you probably wouldn’t make it, but I knew that with God (Jesus) ALL things are possible, so I prayed over you. I have tears of joy right now…..
Vickie
Dear Al, Katy, Amber, Jake & Arielle,
I printed off your entire blog and read it start to finish in one sitting. You had me alternately crying and laughing! I love reading the updates and truly feel like I “know” your family. I have 3 children, and I can relate to you Katy, and your powerful love for your children. Please continue to live and love! You all inspire me to be a better mom, wife and person! Thank you 🙂 🙂 🙂
Katy,
What a strong lady you are. I do not know you personally but what I have heard and read about you you are simply amazing. I heard about your story months ago and it really touched my heart. I am a 41 yr old mother as well with a 7 month old baby boy. I admire you and look up to you. I think I have it bad raising two boys on my own and it’s tough but you … you have so much more on your shoulders than I ever will. So when I start feeling down and depressed I will think of you and how strong of a mother you are. You are a great motivation for me! You are an incredible lady & mother. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
God Bless……
Cath, JC, and Z……..
Katy!Just wanted to drop you a note!I too am a NF Survivor with 15 operations!48 days in the hospital and not much hope of making it ,But i did!I had just started a new job in orlando and was hit by a hit and run driver that ran over my right foot and crushed it1Si i turned in to walking wounded so after a few weeks of healing i started to get sick and NF got in the wound on my foot and i got really sick I was worried i did not have any health Insurance and the Company i worked for was jerking me around But by the Grace of God!We have a very new small Piedmont Mountain Side Hospital in Jasper Ga!They were very good and got it firgued out then i was sent to “Big PEIDMONT” in Atlanta were all the fun begun!But i lost part od my Right Foot and 2 toesand i had been debreeded from my knee to my whole top of my foot! Organ failure but i still going to wound care 2 times a week!We have a good Group on the http://www.nnff.org Facebook page if you want to join in!It is very healing place to be!Take Care!Kevin Palmer Ellijay Ga!Kpalmer62@yahoo.com
Dear Katy,
I am President of the Central Florida Chapter of the Florida State Massage Therapy Association. When we heard about your situation last year, we decided to save up our “door prize” money from our monthly meetings, convention and money received at our Massage Therapy Awareness Week event in October. I am happy to be sending you a check for $1,000. Not much, considering your expenses, but we hope it will help. Blessings to you and your lovely family. Al is the greatest! You inspire us all! Go Katy!
I saw that the Soul Surfer movie is doing a contest for people who inspire you. It seems like Katy would be a wonderful nominee. Here’s the link in case somebody wants to do it!
http://www.soulsurferthemovie.com/page/champion.html
Peace,
Lauren
I just read Katy’s story. What an inspiration to those of us who have reacted to our personal problems negatively! We have no problems at all and have many blessings if we only will look for them and accept that they are blessings. I don’t know how Katy and Al have done all this, but I pray the Lord will bless them many times over in their struggles. I, for one, have to admit now, I have no problems at all compared to Kathy and Al and their family!
May the Lord richly bless each member of your family!
We live miles awAy but have the same story and results. Would love to offer each other inspiration. Please contact me if you’d like to compare stories
Al, I just read your story. It’s an amazing story of your family and your strength. I would love to talk to you more about your story and see what I can do to help.
Cindy Powell
Ansr Audio, Inc.
Katy, you inspire me. I tell my friends about you and your awesome attitude. Your amazing dear. ((( hug )))
Hi Katy,
I met your husband outside of Boston’s Constitution Inn in March. After hearing your story I was hurt to hear about your situation; while also touched by your strength. You’re an amazing person with an amazing family. I truly hope everything goes well for you and your family.
Please tell the truth. It will help other people possibly avoid the same condition. Katy did not develop the serious infection at the hospital as the first paragraph states. She developed it at home after a home birth and was already fully infected before being taken to the hospital days later … http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Parenting/flesh-eating-bacteria-costs-mom-arms-legs/story?id=10646649#.UFCPUqRSRgk
It is essential that you not hide any facts. It could save someone else’s life.
We have never said she developed the infection in the hospital. I think the article doesn’t say that either, but doesn’t do the best job of wording it. Katy got the infection before she went in to the hospital (The strep A), but we are all uncertain as to exactly when the flesh eating bacteria came into the picture. Katy has often tried to be a voice to tell women to get tested. Unfortunately this is such a rare disease (seems like we are hearing about it more and more, though), that doctors don’t usually test for it. The other problem is that the length of time to detect it in blood cultures would put a person past the “easy fix” stage of just getting a simple antibiotic. I have heard, but am not a doctor, that if we give everyone an antibiotic preemptively, then there is the possibility of it evolving into a super-bug. It is our hope that the more people hear about cases such as Katy’s, that more research will be spent to figure out how to detect, treat, and cure this infection. Thanks for reading the blog!
Hi Al, I just saw your story on the news today, we are praying for you and Katy in the road ahead. My family lives in Boston very close to BWH, can we bring you a homemade meal or is there anything that we can provide for you during your stay in Boston while you are waiting? We would be honored to help your family out, and have many families at our church praying. Please don’t hesitate to send along a wish list and we can make it happen! Love to you all, Kristen (you can reach me at my email: eutizzi@hotmail.com)
Thank you so much for your kind offer. We love to meet up with, and, of course, a warm meal is appreciated. I will shoot you an e-mail. Thanks!
I saw the article about Katy online today at http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/health/texas-victim-flesh-eating-bacteria-approved-double-arm-transplant-article-1.1157607
I look forward to reading about her progress. Katy is so inspiring!
Thanks for sharing your wife and family’s story.
Sending positive thoughts and prayers, Valerie 🙂
I was reminded of Katy’s brave story and wonderful outlook while driving home to Kingwood Tuesday night on XM Radio – Oprah’s station. The segment was inspiring. Proud to be your “neighbor” Katy. You are a remarkable woman who proves that outlook and determination make us who we are or aspire to be. I am glad that I found your family’s website. All the best, Kelly
Thanks!
I just read the story about the young veteran who recently received a double arm transplant, and I thought of you, Katy. I hope you’re next! People everywhere are quietly cheering for you!
Be well. 🙂
Thanks! The soldier actually got hand transplants (below elbow), but we are so happy is doing so well! The major difference between the arm/hand surgeries is that the arm surgery is a little easier, but the recovery is a lot longer. Thanks for thinking of us!
Hey! I realize this is somewhat off-topic
however I needed to ask. Does operating a well-established blog like yours take a massive amount
work? I am completely new to blogging but I do write in
my diary every day. I’d like to start a blog so I will be able to share my personal experience and feelings online. Please let me know if you have any recommendations or tips for new aspiring blog owners. Appreciate it!
WordPress is pretty good. You just pay for your account, and then register. It gives me updates right to my e-mail. The hard part is writing. 🙂 Good luck on your blog! Please send me the info so I can read it. Take care, and thanks for posting!
Katy & Al and your beautiful Angel children. God works in many ways to teach us all to be thankful for the simplest of things in life. Scratching my nose, eating at will, walking, holding my children or animals in my arms. How dare me to complain, as my life is so wonderful. You the Hayes family are awesome . You truly give us all hope and Peace to appreciate the very little things we take for granted. While I know each moment is a struggle and a challenge in your life, I want you to know what a huge difference you are making for mankind. Your suffering and will to live and not complain is without doubt an unequalled inspiration in our lives. GOD bless you all. I pray for Peace and Joy to you.
With Tender Love
Roland Stewart